Premature ejaculation is frustrating and embarrassing for many men, and can create a tremendous amount of stress within a relationship. For men suffering from premature ejaculation it is necessary for men to understand the many factors regarding human sexuality to cope with
Embarrassment, shame, and stress in the couples relationship. One of the first pieces of information to understand is that sexual arousal is a four-phase process.
Sexual arousal is a four-phase process.
1. Excitement Phase, breathing deepens and erection begins.
2. Plateau Stage, the erection becomes full and you feel highly aroused.
3. When arousal builds to a certain point, the next phase occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation.
4. Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal and erection subsides.
Breaking the act of sex down to four phases helps men to understand the key to controlling premature ejaculation in the Plateau Phase to gain greater ejaculatory control, or maintain arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation.
One solution that seems out of the ordinary for men is to breathe deeply. Many men tend to almost hold their breath during intercourse, which give way to poor ejaculatory control. Breathing deeply let your breath go. Many men are amazed how much this one little change improves their premature ejaculation.
Tune into your body; men must become aware of the different levels of sexual arousal.
Learn how you feel during each level of sexual arousal. Once men become aware of the phases the body is in, you will begin to feel the approach of ejaculation, and begin to utilize control methods. Once you begin to learn when you are about to enter the point of no return, you will begin to develop greater control of your premature ejaculation.
One more method that can give greater control to premature ejaculation is by giving up control of the sexual experience. Try making love with the woman on top. This position is more relaxing for men, and it often helps with ejaculatory control. You are also allowing your lover to reach her orgasm before you. You can than switch positions and continue.
Premature ejaculation can be controlled by the means written about above. Learning about the four phases of the sex process is a large step toward understanding the sequence of events during intercourse, and greater ejaculatory control. Breathing deeply assists in greater control of ejaculation, and in many cases a more prolonged experience. Changing positions to allow the female to take the top position brings greater relaxation to the man, while allowing the female to become more fully aroused. Premature ejaculation does not need to become a stress to a relationship, or become a shameful, and embarrassing event.